how close do you get to people in chat ,forums.

pocono bunny · #1 02-20-2010, 06:50 AM

this is on my mond really bad i have gone to a yahoo chat room for many of yrs science room. we we all talk on mike and have gotton to know onw another ,there this guy sentfar who 42 lives in ga. a yr ago he took in a homless chatter and this chatter was a drunk and a nut case, sentfar finally g ot rid of him sentfar like to help people and i told him to be carefull well i whent in the room the other day and found out he was murder iseen the news, and who ever killed him covered him with a blanket. i found out last night he told know one in the room he took in another chatter who the cops are looking for he always loved helping people and this is what he gets for it being murder at 42 never married no kids, i just so upset bye all of this, i tell these guys just because we still her and bull shit for yrs we really do not know one another.

Kutzro · #2 02-20-2010, 07:04 AM

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Originally Posted by pocono bunny

i tell these guys just because we still her and bull shit for yrs we really do not know one another.

Exactly. Take nothing serious and trust nobody. I don`t do chat and would never do 1 on 1 chat. I`d rather have all my posts be on a public board.

Summerrain · #3 02-20-2010, 07:38 AM

Sorry for your loss. He sounds like he was a good person. I don't do chats, either - for that reason. I used to go on this one forum where they had a yahoo/AIM type chat and some guy kept harassing me. I make it clear I felt he was out of line and he still continued... I haven't been back since.

I like this type of forum, it is safe and fun - no worries. But I have made friends here that I hope to have the chance to meet in person one day.

Kamma70 · #4 02-20-2010, 07:44 AM

PB, sorry for you loss. He is a perfect example for why we tell our kids not to meet the people we "meet" online. You just never know. I also don't do chat room or Aol. I use to but only with people I know, family and close friends. I would rather "chat" with people on a forum where everything is public. Like here.

Green Lantern · #5 02-20-2010, 08:44 AM

I understand what you are all saying about not getting too close to who you are talking to but sometimes you do, sometimes you just can't help but to grow close.

How many on here have, even though you never really met, gotten close to me, or Kamma, or Summer, or DaisyDog. Sure, we don't all chat privately but we do have more than just a casual bond.

How many have met each other outside of here. I know a few of us have. How many times have we talked of a TPA get together?

Even if we don't have private chats with each other there is still, for many of us, a close bond, a close enough bond, that if something were to happen to any one of us I am sure we'd be upset.

Kutzro · #6 02-20-2010, 09:14 AM

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Originally Posted by Green Lantern

I understand what you are all saying about not getting too close to who you are talking to but sometimes you do, sometimes you just can't help but to grow close.

How many on here have, even though you never really met, gotten close to me, or Kamma, or Summer, or DaisyDog. Sure, we don't all chat privately but we do have more than just a casual bond.

How many have met each other outside of here. I know a few of us have. How many times have we talked of a TPA get together?

Even if we don't have private chats with each other there is still, for many of us, a close bond, a close enough bond, that if something were to happen to any one of us I am sure we'd be upset.

Group get togethers and if you are a girl and you take along a friend are OK. We had them at Pocono Commuter, we`ve had them at some firearm sites I`m on and even some people on dog training sights know me. Public meeting like I mention I`m working at this dog expo and somebody will drop by and say hi.
Different them meeting somebody on a chat and then getting together a some location where it hasn`t been publicly displayed.

Kamma70 · #7 02-20-2010, 09:31 AM

GL, your right. I have met some people online that I have become close to, who I would be very upset if they went away or died or something. Take Spongebob for example, I know he is still there, but he doesn't post much anymore and I miss him. or when Dale went away for awhile, wow that was sad...I have met a few people outside the forums, but only after getting to know them online. and in public places, never alone or in my home. Those I have met I would invite into my home now, but only because I know and trust them.
This man invited a stranger, a homeless stranger into his home. That is scary...

Summerrain · #8 02-20-2010, 11:13 AM

I have been wishing for a long time now that I live closer to you guys. I would love to meet with Valkyrie, Rusty, Kamma, GL, PB, DD, Spongebob, Dale... Just about everyone on here. And - I would LOVE to go squirrel hunting with Belle!!!!!

I met Kid Lester from TalkDE. He bought my purple escort. But other than that, I can't say that I have met anyone else.

Altoona Man · #9 02-21-2010, 05:23 AM

I think what would really be fun about meeting others is seeing what they look like compared to the picture you have in your head. For example, I'm sure I look a lot different (in a bad way) from what most people here picture me looking like. On the other hand, I'm usually fairly decent at predicting what people look like, far from exact, but I usually have a lot of the basic details close to being semi correct.

Rusty · #10 02-21-2010, 08:30 AM

I found myself thanking everyone for their responses because we all seem to get that there is a definite line between being close and being taken advantage of offline. Like Pocono Bunny started this discussion - I once took someone in who didn't have a home, a job, and was pregnant. She brought a puppy in and refused to clean up after it. We had to part ways. She ended up going back to her boyfriend - the father of her baby. Later I found out that she had stolen the puppy and had been passing bad checks - when the police came knocking on our door in the middle of the night. We didn't get into any trouble over it but I was glad she was gone by that time. Since then I've been very careful about getting overly close too quickly. I feel a little differently about the people on here - I've met some and plan to meet some others.

pocono bunny · #11 02-22-2010, 08:34 AM

to me everone in here is safe, see in yahoo they can screen names, and no one is watching what goes on.i like the voice chat, one i speak better then i type and i get my responce right away, i very carefull. and i would never meetany in yahoo.i did find out he took in another person from chat as a room mate witch is nuts, and the roomate was no where to befound, the killer took his pc tower. the cops have a lot of good leads. but it shocks me he took some one in again. i try to point out to some that you really don't know this person in here you been chatting with. any one can be who ever they wan't to be in voice chat.

Naomi · #12 02-26-2010, 01:28 PM

I think more people on TD have met because it is such a small state. The only people I have met here are Rusty, GL and Chase but we live closer. Would love to meet more. Not sure anyone lives close to our house in PA. If so, let me know.

nicle · #13 03-01-2010, 07:33 PM

i have one friend i started speaking to from the first time i logged online. We call each other on holidays and talk a little never met but bounce stuff in our lives off each other. Its funny without the net we never would have met or chatted ever.

So many genuine responses from the regulars here on TPA you really get to see their personality and what kind of good people they really are